You don’t feel well. You look around and see things that need to be put away, projects that need work, and reminders that your body has betrayed you. Pain, fatigue, brain fog, lack of stamina, learning to live in your new normal…whatever your symptoms are, they prevent you from accomplishing daily tasks.
Let’s try an exercise.
- Write (or record) a list of things that you need to do. Include everything that is on your mind: taking your medications, resting, doctor’s appointments, picking up clutter, paying bills, driving the kids, laundry, dishes, cleaning the bathroom, etc.
- Now, rate your energy level for the day, on a scale of 0-10. Zero would be you cannot even get out of bed that day. A level ten would be how you felt prior to your illness.
- Next, I want you to prioritize your list, and sort it by these categories:
- Do: tasks that cannot be done by others, and cannot wait
- Delegate: tasks that need to be done soon, but not necessarily by you
- Delay: tasks that can wait a day or two
- Diminish: tasks that can be done in easier ways (like using frozen meals or having family members cook for themselves from a selection of easy-to-use foods)
- Delete: tasks that really don’t have to be done…for now.
In this example, let’s assume an energy level of 4. The result of this exercise is that your tasks are to run the dishwasher before dinnertime, call the pharmacy and fill your medication trays. This list matches your energy level for the day. Sometimes, your energy level won’t be enough to match your to-do list. Sometimes, you may feel a bit better.
You can learn to trust yourself, set priorities, and delegate, because your job is primarily to take care of your health.