By Maureen DeGarmo and Lisa Mark, C.P.O.
- Invite her to an event, even if you know that she cannot come.
- Offer to bring dinner and a movie on a Friday night.
- Take her kids on an outing.
- Ask thoughtful questions, and then listen to the answers.
- Refrain from judging.
- Refrain from suggesting the latest treatment. She may have already tried it.
- Keep her updated on what is happening in your life. Isolation makes the disease worse.
- Avoid saying, “I know how you feel.”
- Make a specific commitment, such as calling once a week to check in.
- If she likes dogs, but doesn’t have one, bring your dog over for a visit.
- Or your cat.
- Share photos of your latest adventure or your children’s activities.
- Better yet, share photos of her children’s activities, especially if she cannot attend.
- Ask her if locating resources would be helpful. Then, follow through. The Illness Warrior’s Resource List is a great place to start.
- Ask her what she needs you to do, and then do it.
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